Day 17: My Perspective on Love

Hey, sorry for the late post, I didn't have any time in the morning.

You know, everyone has that one friend that never has any relationships or anything, but still gives the best love advice? Well, I'm that friend. Practically everyone comes to me with lots and lots of problems, and I almost always solve them...with the same solution every single time. So, naturally, I've heard a lot of different perspectives on 'love', and I've had loads of interesting conversations with people about their perspectives.

Till today, I've only met one person who agrees with me almost completely about what 'love' is and what it should include. I've heard loads of things about people being 'in love' that are completely nonsensical. Some people say that 'love' is that butterfly feeling in your stomach. It's not, I can tell you that. The butterfly feeling is, in fact completely in your mind. I'm not kidding. People make things up, consciously or unconsciously, just based on things they hear or read. I find this really funny, and I love seeing how different people react when I tell them this.

Another 'definition' of 'love' is the inexplicable one, The one in which people say, "Omg I'm in love with so-and-so but I just can't explain why." That's completely nonsensical too. You CANNOT be in love with someone without knowing why. That br
ings me back to the one person who does have the same perspective as me.

The person (Let's just say X) is one of the only people I've met who doesn't act silly or overwhelmed, and doesn't ask for attention. The basic principle is that you want to be happy, and you know exactly why being with that person makes you happy. You know all the things about the person that she/he doesn't like, but you love them anyway. You have a whole list of reasons for why you love the person, including the most silliest reasons ever. You just can't help smiling when you think about the person, and a text from that person instantly cheers you up.

In short, it's about you. Who makes you happy. That's it. It's really simple, and absolutely everything boils down to that eventually. In fact, everything in the world boils down to you in the end. No matter what happens, the only thing that matters the most is your own happiness and well being, and caring for yourself should always be your top priority. As long as you are happy and comfortable, everything will fall into place. Like I said right in the beginning, I'm kinda the expert here, so take my advice, and go with the infallible instinct that will never let you down.

Just remember, everything happens for a reason. Sometimes you don't want it to, but eventually, you will see the whole picture and be thankful things happened the way they did.

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” 
― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

With that, see you next week.

Day 16: Where I Wish To Be In 1, 5, 10 Years

Welcome back to my blog, I hope you all had an amazing week...

In 1 year, I'm going to be in 9th grade, in a new school. I'm going to start all over with completely new people, teachers and environments. In one year from today, I wish to be hanging out with my new friends (who I still haven't met, cuz, like I said, it's going to be whole new place). I've made up loads of imaginary friends with long stories and I can't wait to see which one's actually come close to my future friends' stories. So that's one year.

In 5 years, I'm definitely going to be in college, studying psychology. I will again be with a whole bunch of new people, teachers and a completely different place. Sometimes I wish I could fast forward for one day just to see all the new things and meet all the new people I'm going to meet. Experience one day in high school and one day in college.

In 10 years, I hope to be working somewhere that involves psychology and people. So, one more time, new people, new place. Except, this time it will be a whole new experience too. No more studying, no more classes, but I'll still be learning every day. I'll still be meeting new people and making new friends, seeing new places. It's going to be amazing.

I want to travel the world with my friend[s] someday and see all the places there are to see, popular or not. I wish I could take a yearlong trip, with beaches, parks and snow. If there's one thing that I love more than anything else, it's a new experience. It could be absolutely anything. As long as there is something new or different, I will always be having fun. I could go to the same place over and over if it was with a different person each time. Every little thing makes my world exciting and I honestly cannot wait to see how things turn out.

One day I will read this blog post and compare it to what actually happened, and then I will see how plausible my theories actually are.

You know what? Theoretically, if we were talking about today in 1, 5 and 10 years, I would be sitting on my laptop writing blogs... at least, I hope I am.

Well, I'm surely going to be writing one next week, so see you then!

Day 15: My Biggest Pet Peeves

I'm back from my five day Yosemite trip and it was fantastic! I had so much fun and made so many new friends, and most of all, I survived without any electronic devices for an entire week! Also, Happy Ultimate Pi Day everyone!!

Okay, so for those who don't know, a pet peeve is something that a person finds particularly annoying. So, for example, if someone says something that makes you feel like punching the person, or screaming at them, then that is your pet peeve.

I have a lot of pet peeves, the first and foremost being grammar. I absolutely cannot stand it when people say things that aren't grammatically correct. The most annoying grammatical mistake I hear is "On the light!" or "Off the light!" Oh my god. I scream at every single person who says that. Honestly, how hard is it to say, "Switch on," or "Switch off?" Some of the other common mistakes are two, to and too, affect and effect, and words with double negatives like irreversible. Grammar is my biggest pet peeve ever.

The next thing on my list is when people hear something about someone else and that causes a huge fight in which neither person is letting the other explain. I have been in an arbitrator in countless fights like this, and the first thing I always tell people is not to just go by something you heard from someone else, but to always talk to the person involved and get all the information first hand. Why do people get mad at other people based on something they heard from someone else? Who knows what kind of filters and biases the information has gone through before reaching you? I never fail to get mad when someone tells me that they are ignoring someone else based on something they heard. I always take all information to the people involved before I react on anything I hear.

Another huge pet peeve of mine is folded pages. Seeing a book mutilated by a folded page makes me honestly want to laminate every page of every book and/or keep every book locked up in a glass case. Why do bookmarks even exist if people fold pages left, right and center? Bookmarks are to keep books neat. They are not pieces of decoration. They are the only things that are supposed to be used to mark your page in a book.

I have loads more pet peeves, but they are less dominant in me, so I don't feel like punching people every single time.

That's all for today, see ya next week!

Day 14: What Stresses Me Out

Hey again, early post because I have lots of weekend work...

This post is kind of coincidental, I was just telling my friend to chill out, forget whatever he was stressed out about and enjoy Friday night like everybody else.

The main thing that stresses me out is when I have school work to do and it's after 9:15 in the night. I automatically shut down after around 9:30, so if I have work that will take me longer than that, I get completely stressed out. Then I either do a really bad job or do it in a hurry in the morning.

I think that might be the ONLY thing that stresses me out.

While I'm on the topic of school, I really feel the need to say that exams and tests absolutely 100% DO NOT stress me out. I learn everything I need to know in class, so I don't actually need any extra studying to perform well. Anything I actually focus on in class sticks with me.

Once again, I Googled for a list of reasons people get stressed, because there's not much that actually stresses me out. Here it goes:
1. Fear: My entire last post was dedicated to the fact that I'm almost fearless. So no chance there...
2. Lack of sleep: I honestly get at least 8 hours of sleep every single day. So, even if I don't sleep for an entire night, I would still have enough sleep accumulated to keep me awake and de-stressed.

Okay. That list was shorter than I expected it to be, because most of the reasons I found were either not for kids, like work, or too complicated to talk about.

I'm just going to go with giving you guys advice on how to deal with stress.

1. Sit down and read a book. Books always transport you somewhere where you don't need to think about yourself, and that calms me down really quickly.
2. Take a walk. Fresh air always help, and a change of scene from whatever probably stressed you out in the first place is probably a good idea.
3. Do something artistic. Everyone has art in them, whether it be drawing, painting, photography, or anything else. Focusing on doing something that is not work will help cool off.
4. Talk to someone. I personally find this the most useful and helpful way of cooling off. Talking to someone gives you another perspective to your "huge problems" and it just might make you realize that you're not alone, and that your "problems" are actually you over thinking something small.

If you have a tip that you think is helpful, comment below.

That's it for today... See ya next week.